Category: In Memoriam (Page 2 of 8)

Remembering friends who have departed

Bruce Kirby

Bruce Kirby, a Canadian-born journalist, Olympic sailor and self-taught naval architect whose design for a lightweight fiberglass dinghy, originally sketched on a piece of yellow legal paper, changed the face of sailing, died on Monday at his home in the village of Rowayton in Norwalk, Conn. He was 92.

His wife, Margo Kirby, confirmed his death.

Dinghy racing in North America and Europe in the late 1960s revolved around the International 14, a lightweight, 14-foot, two-person craft, and by then Mr. Kirby had carved out a niche for himself moonlighting as a designer in the 14 sailing class, spinning off variations on the original design that would have the dinghy planing and skipping across the water’s surface. His day job was as editor of the sailing magazine One-Design & Offshore Yachtsman in Chicago.

He had also won renown racing 14s and was a three-time Olympian for Canada, though without winning a medal.

One day in 1969 he received a phone call from a friend, Ian Bruce, an industrial designer and boating enthusiast in Montreal who as a side job had been building complex wooden hulls to Mr. Kirby’s I-14 designs and selling them. But with little margin in that business, he was looking for a new small-boat design — an easy-to-build, fiberglass sailboat that a solo sailor could race and that would help keep his I-14 business rolling.

Grabbing a yellow legal pad, Mr. Kirby promptly drew one up, envisioning a lightweight fiberglass hull, just under 14 feet long. It would eventually be christened the Laser and become a worldwide phenomenon.

“When Ian called him in 1969, Bruce was doodling,” said Peter Bjorn, a former partner in Performance Sailcraft, the first manufacturer of the Laser. “Ian lofted it,” he added, referring to the drawing of final plans, “in the fall of 1970, and they tweaked it. There was snow on the ground when they finally put the molds together. Bruce came and sailed it. And that was it.”

The boat was rigged up for the 1971 New York Boat Show with a sticker price of $595 (about $3,780 today). Before the doors closed, 144 were sold.

“All of a sudden,” Mr. Bjorn said, “there was something that wasn’t quite a toy — they took a bit to sail — and you could take money straight out of your pocket to buy it and throw it on the roof of your car.”

Coming in colors like orange, yellow, light blue and British racing green, the boat was an instant sensation. Its streamlined simplicity — with a teak tiller and a sail whose sleeve slid over an aluminum mast — made the Laser as basic in design as the Windsurfer and the Hobie Cat catamaran, both of which had arrived on the beach boat scene around the same time. What made the Laser different from them, however, was that it could be ideal both for cruising around with friends and for performance racing by a single sailor.

“It was a boat you could control with your body,” said Peter Commette, winner of the first Laser world championships, in 1974.

More than 250,000 of the boats have been built worldwide since 1970, making Mr. Kirby’s creation one of the most influential sailboat designs of all time. The Laser, now called the ILCA, for the International Laser Class Association, is used for men’s and women’s single-handed events in the Olympics.

Mr. Kirby came to call his original legal pad drawing the “million dollar doodle.” The royalties he received allowed him to leave his day job, launching him into an eclectic boat-design career that touched every corner of the sport, from the America’s Cup to junior sailing to cruising craft for shallow estuaries, and established him as one of the world’s pre-eminent boat designers.

Bruce Robert William Kirby was born on Jan. 2, 1929, in Ottawa into a nautical family with membership in the Brittania Boating Club in Ottawa (a grandfather was a club commodore). His father, David Patee Kirby, was in the building supply business. His mother, Eileen (Bruce) Kirby traced her lineage to Scottish kings, according to family lore. His paternal great-grandfather was Adm. Henry W. Bruce (1792-1863), a noted commander in the Royal Navy who was said to have participated in the War of 1812 early in his career.

He followed in his father’s wake, racing small boats on the Ottawa River during Canada’s fleeting summers and devouring copies of Yachting magazine in the winter. The best small-boat sailors of the time raced International 14s, two-person boats, each usually built in the home or garage according to design specifications. Mr. Kirby began to travel and rake in trophies in the class.

If his first love was sailing, his second was journalism. A lung ailment kept him out of college, and through his father’s connections he became, at 20, a reporter for The Ottawa Journal for $25 a week (the equivalent of about $290 in Canadian money today).

His knowledge of sailing brought him reporting stints from an ocean sailing yacht in Europe. Moving to The Montreal Star, he joined its copy desk but also covered the America’s Cup. He headed for Chicago to become editor of One-Design & Offshore Yachtsman in 1965.

Never far from sailing, Mr. Kirby qualified for the 1956 Olympics, in Melbourne, Australia, in the single-handed Finn class. He went on to sail in the 1964 Games (in Tokyo) in the same class and in the 1968 games (centered in Mexico City) in the two-person Star class.

He worked out his designs using intuition and from reading Norman Skene’s “Elements of Yacht Design.” His I-14 designs were steppingstones to the Laser, which in turn opened doors, bringing him a host of design commissions, including one for a yacht named Runaway, Canada’s 1981 entry in the Admiral’s Cup international competition. Runaway put him on a global stage.

Then came Canada I, the 1983 Canadian entry for the America’s Cup, and its design lifted Kirby’s reputation to new heights.

Though Canada I made the semifinals, the Canadians were no match for the Australians, who went on to break the longest winning streak in sports history — 132 years — by defeating the Americans that year for the cup.

Kirby designed another Cup boat, the Canada II, for the 1987 series. He also produced a total of 63 innovative and popular sailboat designs, including the 23-foot Sonar keelboat, which he created for the Noroton Yacht Club in Darien, Conn., where he was a commodore. The Sonar has been sailed on every continent and is used in the Paralympic Games.

His Laser was selected for the men’s single-handed sailing event for the 1996 Olympics and for the women’s single-handed event in 2008.

“For me the big thing I love about the Laser is the simplicity of design,” Sarah Douglas, a Canadian representative in this year’s Tokyo Olympics, said in a phone interview from Japan. “I grew up in Barbados. It’s the most accessible boat. If the Laser wasn’t in the Games, I don’t know how smaller nations can compete in sailing.”

Kirby, who became a naturalized American citizen, lived along the Five Mile River in Rowayton for 45 years, designing in his basement. He and Mr. Bruce were awarded the Order of Canada for their contributions to sailing, and Mr. Kirby was inducted into the National Sailing Hall of Fame in 2012.

In addition to his wife, he is survived by two daughters, Kelly Kirby and Janice Duffy, and two granddaughters.

“Physically he was quite compromised,” Margo Kirby, his wife, said. “He blamed it on hiking for years on small boats. He said he’d do it all over again.”

Howard “Tom” Thompson passed away on May 29, 2021

Howard “Tom” Thompson passed away on May 29. He was 89 years old.


Born in Oak Park, Illinois, Tom spent his childhood years in New Canaan and ultimately raised his family in Darien. After graduating from Middlebury College in 1953, Tom served in the United States Navy. Tom married Ann Hilton in 1958. Together they raised two children. In business, he enjoyed a successful career as an advertising executive, including vice-president for Benton & Bowles Advertising Agency.

 

During his 63 years in Darien, he served as Treasurer of Noroton Presbyterian Church, Chairman of the Darien Red Cross, and President of The Darien Senior Men’s Association (2002-2003). Tom volunteered for the Stamford-based Meals on Wheels organization.

 
Tom enjoyed time with his family on numerous vacations in the Caribbean and summers in Plymouth, MA and Cape Cod. He was an avid New York Yankees fan and also cheered for the Patriots, as his granddaughter is a New England Patriots cheerleader.

In addition to his wife, Ann, Tom is survived by his two daughters, Cynthia Thompson Daniska (Michael) of Bethel, CT and Betsy Thompson of Darien. Tom is also survived by two grandchildren, Scott Daniska and Lauren Daniska, both of whom reside in the Boston area.

A private family memorial will take place in Plymouth, MA in August. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Tom’s memory to Fidelco Guide Dog Foundation, 27 Cannon Road, Wilton, CT 06897.

David H. Crandall

David H. Crandall died peacefully on March 13, 2021 with family by his side. He was 89 years old.

Born in Oswego, NY, Dave raised his family in Darien where he was exceptionally active in the life of the community, from church vestry member to volunteer firefighter. He also served on various town committees ultimately becoming Chairman of the Board of Finance for the Town of Darien.

After graduating from Colgate University in 1953 and then serving as a captain in the Marine Corps, Dave met Jane Fox in New York City. They married in 1959. Together they raised four children in Darien. Dave may be most remembered for his genuine connection with people. Regardless of one’s station in life, Dave had an easy way of bonding with anyone. When you spoke to him, you knew he cared about you.

Dave and his family were long-time members of St. Luke’s Parish in Darien where he served as senior warden among other volunteer roles. That participation in the church led to further involvement with the Berkeley Divinity School at Yale University where he served as Board Chair from 1991-99 and received an honorary doctorate degree in 1999. In business Dave built a successful career in real estate.

No remembrance of Dave would be complete without mentioning his passion for fire engines. Having served as a volunteer fireman with Noroton Fire Department, Dave loved everything about firefighting. His boyhood fascination never left him.
Dave was an avid sailor. Some of his happiest memories were sailing with his family on Long Island Sound and Buzzards Bay.
In addition to his wife Jane, Dave is survived by his four children, six grandchildren and six great grandchildren.

Bob Riith

Robert A. “Bob” Riith, OFS, 83, husband of the late Patricia E. Riith of Darien, passed away Tuesday, February 9, 2021, peacefully at home.

Born November 2, 1937, to Engelbert J. and Frances M. Riith, Bob, raised in Greenwich, CT, was a longtime resident of Darien, CT.  Mr. Riith attended Greenwich High School, and served in the Army Reserves. Bob was Sewer Superintendent for the Town of Darien for over 30-years. Bob was an enthusiastic volunteer, serving as a firefighter with the NHFD, Assistant Scoutmaster with Troop 53, and involved in Darien youth athletics.

Bob was a member of St. Thomas More Church in Darien. He was a Third Order Franciscan, and a Member of the Holy Spirit Fraternity in Fairfield. Bob served in the Masons, Shriners, and Knights of Columbus organizations. Bob is survived by his daughter Frances, and sons Robert A. Jr., and Michael. Additionally, Bob is survived by his three sisters, Barbara Gleason, Kathleen Duffy, and Karen Landers. He is also survived by his seven grandchildren, a great granddaughter, nieces and nephews.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated this Tuesday at 10:30AM in St. Thomas More Church in Darien. Attendance is limited. Please e-mail: BobRiith37@gmail.com to attend in person. The Mass is available online at www.stmdarienct.org For more information visit www.collins-funeral.com

Memorial donations may be made to Shriners Hospitals for Children, www.shrinershospitalsforchildren.org. Arrangements are in the care of Collins Funeral Home, Norwalk, CT. Please visit www.collinsfh.com/obituaries for the full obituary and to leave condolences.

Tom Glover

Tom Glover, 90, who for years did a caricature of each DMA president for this newsletter, died peacefully on December 17 in Exeter, New Hampshire. Tom was a caricaturist with a unique ability to capture the essence of those he drew, and he touched thousands of people with his cheerful perception.
He was born in New York and raised in Great Neck, Long Island. The course of Tom’s life took a decisive turn when he headed north to St. Lawrence University, where he honed his drawing skills at a local watering hole called the Tick Tock, where his caricatures hung. He graduated in 1952, and after serving in the Army, Tom returned each year to draw new SLU students. A blind date was arranged with one of the new coeds, and Tom’s fate was sealed.

Tom and his wife Diane went on to make a wonderful life based in Rowayton and were married for 62 years. From an ever-busy home studio Tom built a thriving business. A private service will be conducted at Christ Church in Exeter on December 27, with a Committal service to follow during warmer weather in Rowayton.

David Hurwitt

David Frank Hurwitt
David Frank Hurwitt of New Canaan, CT passed away November 19, 2020. David was born on April 8, 1938 in Kansas City, MO, the son of Irwin and Nancy Hurwitt. He is survived by his wife of fifty-seven years, Susan, their four children – Douglas, Laura Towle, David, and Sarah Clark, their spouses, 11 grandchildren, his sister, Joann Kinney, and many beloved cousins, nieces, and nephews.
David graduated from Harvard University in 1960 and received an MBA from Harvard Business School in 1964, following a stint in the Air Force. He spent twenty-six years with General Foods Corp, including six years in Europe running the company’s English and French subsidiaries before returning to the US as General Manager of the Breakfast Foods Division, and then Corporate VP of Marketing. David subsequently worked as VP of Marketing for Flagstar, owner of Denny’s, and Hardee’s largest franchisee.
David then began nearly 20 years as a dedicated mentor and coach to a variety of small businesses, first through Renaissance Executive Forums and then through his own practice, Hurwitt Coaching. A wonderful communicator with the ability to ask deeply insightful questions which he sprinkled with his own wisdom, David loved working 1-on-1 with others, helping them to achieve their dreams. His years of working in, and then leading large organizations and teams, combined with his own management style – supportive, and conveying the importance of responsibility and accountability – provided a template that many of his small business clients continue to use with great success and gratitude.
Alongside his work, David volunteered regularly for many organizations, including The Rotary Club of New Canaan, served on the boards of The Institute for Global Ethics, Shakespeare on the Sound – Rowayton and ABC (A Better Chance) – Darien, and spent 10 years as Board Chair for Creative Connections of Norwalk. He was a lifelong learner, athlete, and artist who loved to connect with people. When you spoke to him, he was endlessly curious and thoroughly engaged. An avid photographer and traveler, his favorite subjects were always people. Wherever he went, he would seek out crowded markets or bustling fishing villages where he would meet people through his camera. Often separated by language and culture, his subjects were invariably suspicious until he peeked up from behind his viewfinder with his infectious grin and that special twinkle in his eye that brought out their smiles and created so many poignant images of connection and trust.
An avid golfer and tennis player, David more recently turned his enthusiasm for sport to the pickleball court where he was well-known for his wicked slice shot, something he often claimed came from “a misspent youth playing ping-pong.” David made many new friends playing pickleball, enjoying time with them the very morning of his passing, winning his last four games.
Ever the student, David was particularly interested in history and government and was always reading biographies – everything from Genghis Khan to Abraham Lincoln – although Winston Churchill and fellow Missourian Harry Truman were particular favorites. It was no surprise that a man from the “Show Me State” would look to examples from the past as he too always sought to lead by example. Gracious and polite, curious and compassionate, he was an inspiring role model for his children and grandchildren and a steady and trusted friend to people of all ages and backgrounds.
Perhaps his favorite role, however, was as husband to his beloved wife Susie. Always solicitous, he was known to often show up with flowers “just because”. Together, they raised their children, traveled the world, created beautiful homes, made treasured friends, supported their church, and became the world’s best grandparents together as Susu and Poppy. Always highly engaged with family, officiating at the wedding of their oldest granddaughter, Hannah, to Luke Barthelmess was something David considered to be one of the greatest honors of his life.
David, Dad, Poppy will be greatly missed because he was greatly loved, but the pure and consistent example of his life will remain an unwavering beacon for all who knew him. Be kind, be interested, connect with people, listen to understand others and always bring home flowers… just because.
A celebration of David’s life will be held when his family and friends can all safely gather, presumably this summer. To enjoy a sampling of David’s favorite photographs, please visit https://dhurwitt.smugmug.com.
If you would like to give a memorial contribution in David’s name, the following suggestions were among those endeavors very meaningful to him:
The Rotary Club of New Canaan Charitable Foundation
PO Box 62, New Canaan, CT 06840
Creative Connections’ David Hurwitt Scholarship Fund
Enabling underserved youth in the US and around the world to engage in arts-based exchanges that foster global understanding and empathy. https://creativeconnections.org/hurwitt_fund/
The Principia School’s Morgan Fund
Established by the Hurwitt/Towle family to support and encourage new families to attend the Principia School. Please specify The Morgan Fund when donating.
The Advancement Office
Principia
13201 Clayton Rd.
St. Louis, MO 63131
or online: https://www.principiagiving.org/donate

 

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Dear Family and Friends,

We hope you will save the date and join us for a virtual celebration of David’s life on Sunday, April 18 at 4:00 pm EDT.

Please register for the event by clicking on the link below today. Once registered, Zoom will send you all the details needed to attend.

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJArce6gqz0tHdQDcC5Rrs-am5eM-6YIveWM

 You are welcome to forward this information to others you know who would appreciate being included.

We are so looking forward to gathering together to celebrate our precious dad and husband with you.

With love,

Susie, Doug, Laura, Dave and Sarah

Gil Alexandre

Gilbert Alexandre
Gilbert Alexandre, born in Luxembourg May 26, 1935 and longtime resident of Darien, died peacefully Sunday morning August 2, 2020. While his passing is a sad day for us all Gil had a kind and generous soul who lived his life to the fullest leaving the fondest of memories for everyone who knew him.

As a six year old in 1941, Gil immigrated to the US through Ellis Island. This first of his many adventures began after his father Emmanuel made the decision to move the family to the US given the situation with the war in Europe. The family travelled to Marseille where they secured emigration papers to the US and formulated their plans to make the trip during those dangerous times. The family found passage on a boat taking them to the coast of Tunisia and from there a train to Casablanca. Outside Casablanca they spent time in a displaced persons camp while Gil’s father arranged passage to the US on a Portuguese tramp steamer. This next leg of the adventure took 28 days including a one week stop in Havana during which they could not leave the ship. Ultimately Gil & his family arrived in New York City where Gil recalled being taken on deck to see the Statue of Liberty.

His first few years in New York were spent at PS9, learning English, making friends and attending summer camp in Westchester. For the next decade Gil became a true New Yorker until he left town to attend Brown University where he received his bachelor’s degree in International Relations. From there he spent time learning the ropes at Marshall Fields in Chicago before joining the Army in 1956. On several occasions Gil mentioned particularly fond memories of his days in boot camp at Ft. Devens in Massachusetts and being stationed in Hawaii where he leveraged his card playing skills teaching Contact Bridge. After the Army, Gil returned to New York where he received his MBA from Columbia University. Gil spent the next five decades building and running his own businesses and enjoying life with family and friends who now miss him greatly.

Among his many passions he owned/operated a large department store, Nouveau Paris, in Luxembourg City that was founded by his grandfather Emile. A big part of his life for many years he managed the store from afar along with his mother Denyse, flying back and forth to Europe, as well as spending a month every summer there managing the store from 1968 until the early 1980’s.
He was a founding member of the Consumer Analyst Group of New York (CAGNY) and a Securities Analyst at Chase Investors Management Corp as well as Merrill Lynch before striking out on his own in the early 1980’s.
Gil brought adventure & humor into all our lives. From being a lifeguard at Craigville Beach on Cape Cod during college to scuba diving to photography to travelling the world to his great love of reading he always greeted everyone with a handshake and parted ways with “cheers”. Gil would often be seen in one of his many berets, always a bow tie and no holiday was complete without his favorite, foie gras! He loved spending time with the grandchildren hearing about what they were learning in school, projects they worked on and the books they were reading.

Gil was predeceased by his parents Denyse & Emmanuel Alexandre and is survived by his wife Julie Forrester-Alexandre, son Phil Alexandre & grandchildren Johnny & Nicole, daughter Daryl Whitmoyer (William) & grandchildren Kate & Turner, Julie’s daughter Dagny Forrester & grandson Nate, son Mark Forrester (Tricia) & grandchildren Kirsten, Caroline & Sarah.
A memorial service will be planned in the future once safe for family and friends to gather. He will be laid to rest with his parents in Paris.

Michael Poler, 1935-2020

Michael Avery Poler
Michael Avery Poler passed away peacefully at his home in Norwalk, Connecticut on July 1, 2020, surrounded by family, including his wife of 42 years Petrea. Michael was born on September 23, 1935 in Huntington, New York to parents Helen M. (Saylor) and Emmons Edson Poler. Michael attended the Kent School in Kent, Connecticut (Class of 1954) and Babson College in Wellesley Hills, MA (Class of 1957). He also served in the United States Army Reserves from 1954 to 1962, attaining the rank of staff sergeant.
From a young age, Michael would never be far from the water. From the ages of nine through thirteen, he spent the summers at Camp Dudley on shores of Lake Champlain. As a student at the Kent School, he served as coxswain for a crew in the Henley Royal Regatta on the River Thames in 1953. Upon moving to Rowayton in 1960, Michael crewed various amateur fishing vessels, some ill-fated, before taking the helm of White Bear, which he faithfully captained for 43 years. For decades, Michael shuttled children and grandchildren to Jones Beach in Wantagh, New York. Most often, though, Michael could be found on the porch of their home overlooking Chasmars Pond, where he and Petrea would entertain friends and family or, on the rare occasion that their house was empty, enjoy some peace, quiet and a few rounds of dominoes.
Michael was a devoted member of the United Church of Rowayton where he sang in the choir for 58 years. Additionally, Michael acted as a Lay Leader and Deacon in the Church, held various chairmanships, and served as treasurer for the Church’s Memorial Garden. A lifelong choirboy, Michael also sang for Christ Church in Bronxville, New York and the Choir and Glee Club at the Kent School.
Michael worked for ITT Rayonier Inc. for 42 years, before he “retired” in 1990 and founded MAP International Inc., where he served as president until his death. Michael also served as treasurer for Five Mile River Recitals and the Emig Foundation. He was a member of the Darien Senior Men’s Association and the Union League Club in New York City.
Michael also leaves behind eight children – Christine P. Fleming, Theodore A. Poler, Kimberly P. Albanese, Timothy E. Poler, Peter A. Sweeney, Christine C. Sweeny, Catherine M. Sweeny, and J. David Sweeny; fifteen grandchildren; his younger sister, Margaretta E. Poler; sister-in-law Gail M. Poler; and four nieces and nephews. A skilled craftsman, Michael also leaves behind a meticulously organized workshop, where several sons-in-law and grandchildren learned the proper way to carve a turkey under his impatient supervision. Michael is predeceased by his parents, his younger brother Henry S. Poler, and his granddaughter Jae Ling Sweeny.
Finally, in the estimation of the author, Michael was a truly great grandfather/grumpa/far far. He will be missed dearly by all who knew him, but his absence is sure to be felt most acutely in the ice cream industry.
A public memorial service for Michael will take place in September, circumstances permitting. In the meantime, Michael asked that anyone so-inclined make a donation in his memory to Camp Dudley, Westport, NY and The United Church of Rowayton.

 

 

Chick Scribner passes away

Chick Scribner 
In memoriam

It is with great sadness that we inform our Scouting family that our beloved Chick Scribner, “The Gentleman Scouter”, passed away on June 27th 2020.
It is difficult to imagine Darien Scouting without Chick. Chick was a Scouter for over 50 years and most likely holds the record for the most years volunteered for Darien Scouting. Until recently he was a fixture at every Darien Scouting event…he never missed an activity, meeting or party, and always pitched in with a smile at our annual Tag Sale. His dedication would be tough to match. He was a friend, a leader, a mentor and inspiration to generations of Scouts and their families. While we say goodbye to Chick, we know the kind and helpful example he set will always be remembered. RIP Chick, you will be profoundly missed!
Please see below for the tribute written by his nephew John Hanks:
Charles “Chick” Scribner Gone Home

It is with a heavy heart that I report the passing of Charles “Chick” Scribner.

Chick Scribner passed away peacefully today with his family at his side.  He was 96 years old. Chick was a devoted Scouter from Cub Scout Leader to Scoutmaster and Assistant Scoutmaster for decades. For more than 20 years he served as Assistant District Commissioner for Darien.  Chick was given the nickname “the Gentlemen Scouter” due to his kind and helpful manner. He is best known for never missing a Scout Meeting.

Chick was a World War II veteran serving in Burma. He served his community for 50 years as a volunteer for the Noroton Heights Fire Department, active in the VFW, coached sports and was involved in numerous other organizations.  He is predeceased by his wife Mary and survived by his children Chuck Scribner, Jean Allen, Jim Scribner, Donald Scribner, his sister Betty Ritcher, and many grandchild, nieces and nephews.

Chick followed in his father footsteps. His father, the late Harold B. Scribner was a founder of Scouting in Darien starting in 1915.  He was a Scoutmaster for the first Darien Troop and like Chick was a veteran serving in World War I.  Harold Scribner became Darien first District Commissioner a position he held for more than 20 years. A comparable position Chick also held.

Chick’s legacy is the countless lives he touched, and he truly made a difference to so many people in Scouting.  Chick was my uncle and my inspiration to Scouting.  He is also uncle to Mike Scribner of Ridgefield, a former Scoutmaster and now a Commissioner for Scatacook.

I will notify of funeral arrangements when they become available.

YiS

John Hanks

What does “Gone Home” mean?

A circle with a dot in the centre “ʘ” is the trail sign for “Going home”, or “I have gone home.  It is on the gravestone of Lord Baden Powell the founder of Scouting.
… I have had a most happy life and I want each one of you to have a happy life too. I believe that God put us in this jolly world to be happy and enjoy life. Happiness does not come from being rich, nor merely being successful in your career, nor by self-indulgence. One step towards happiness is to make yourself healthy and strong while you are a boy, so that you can be useful and so you can enjoy life when you are a man. Nature study will show you how full of beautiful and wonderful things God has made the world for you to enjoy. Be contented with what you have got and make the best of it. Look on the bright side of things instead of the gloomy one. But the real way to get happiness is by giving out happiness to other people. Try and leave this world a little better than you found it and when your turn comes to die, you can die happy in feeling that at any rate you have not wasted your time but have done your best. ‘Be Prepared’ in this way, to live happy and to die happy – stick to your Scout Promise always – even after you have ceased to be a boy – and God help you to do it – Baden-Powell, Sir Robert. “B-P’s final letter to the Scouts”.

Herm Eckrich passes away, May 9, 2020

Herman Joseph Eckrich, Jr. died on May 9, 2020 holding hands with the person he loved most in the world, his wife Jeanne. Herm and Jeanne were married for 63 years. Thanks to the incredible care that he received from the Edgehill Harbor staff and Hospice, the end was peaceful and comfortable. He never complained while dying of complications from Parkinson’s disease. 

Herm, or Sonny as he was fondly called as a child, was the eldest son of Herman Eckrich, Sr. and Lucy Pauline Eckrich. He grew up in Fort Wayne, IN and spent summers on Lake Wawasee, where he developed a lifelong love of the water.  

Herman graduated from St. Jude Catholic School in Fort Wayne, Georgetown Preparatory School in Washington, D.C., and Villanova University. He served as a Lieutenant JG in the U.S. Navy at the Great Lakes. He then joined the family business, Peter Eckrich and sons, rising to become Group Vice President of Marketing and Sales. He later began a decades-long career in investments in NYC.

In addition to his wife Jeanne, he is survived by his six children: Karen Tyler (Sam, Will, Eric, Eleanor, and great granddaughter Nora), Gary, Jennifer Shannon (Scott and Sarah), Kim Oster (Charlotte and Claire), Teresa (Ben, Madeline, and Louise), and Maureen. He is predeceased by his brother Tom Eckrich, sister Patty Eckrich, and grandson Alex Tyler. Herm’s surviving brother David Eckich continues to share his loving support. 

Herm loved family and the outdoors, especially sailing on the Innisfree, skiing at Bromley mountain, and hiking with Jason, the family golden retriever. He will be remembered fondly by longtime friends at Tokeneke Club and Senior Men’s of Darien. He was loved by all and found the good in everyone. 

A memorial service will be held at a future time. If you would like to make a gift in Herman Eckrich’s honor, please consider the Edgehill Associates Appreciation Fund, 122 Palmers Hill Road, Stamford, CT 06902

 

John Barston

John J. Barston, a resident of Darien, CT, passed away on April 8 at the age of 97.
Born on May 5, 1922, on Elizabeth Street on the Lower East Side of Manhattan, John grew up
in Woodhaven, Queens. After graduating from Franklin K. Lane High School, he was employed
by the Inland Marine Department of Fireman’s Fund Insurance Company while attending New
York University at night. During World War II John was in the United States Army, 3188th
Signal Service Battalion, for forty months (1942-1946), predominantly stationed in France and
Germany. After returning home John continued his education, under the GI Bill of Rights,
returning to New York University and was ultimately awarded Bachelor of Laws and Master of
Laws degrees from Brooklyn Law School.
After admission to the New York State Bar Association in 1951, John co-founded the
independent law firm Barston, Wolynetz & Steck in New York that served the local immigrant
community on the Lower East Side. He was labor counsel for Associated Transport in NY, the
largest trucking company east of the Mississippi. John then became General Counsel of The
Trans-Lease Group, a privately held company in Westwood, MA.
John was founding Corporate Secretary and Director of the Ukrainian Museum and Library in
Stamford, CT, and a longtime member of the Count Team at St. Thomas More Church in
Darien where he was a parishioner for twenty-two years. He was most passionate about
leading the Darien Men’s Association “Wanderers” for eighteen years, organizing and leading
walking expeditions to unique neighborhoods in New York City, which always included a visit
to a historical local tavern.
John had a life-long love of sports, whether coaching his sons’ Little League teams, watching
from the sidelines at his grandchildren’s games, or running the annual March Madness
tournament pool.
John was preceded in death by his parents, John Berezowski and Pauline Warchol
Berezowski, his sister Mary, and brother Michael. A family man, John is survived by his loving
wife Geraldine of sixty-six years and their three sons and their wives John (Jay) and Liliana of
Naples, FL, Daniel and Nancy of Auburn, MA and Michael and Diane of Darien, CT, as well as six
grandchildren, Claudia, Kate, Matthew, Nicole, Peter, and Stephen.
A memorial mass will be held in the fall. In lieu of flowers please consider a donation to At
Home In Darien www.athomeindarien.org

Bob Martella passes away February 4, 2020

Robert Austin Martella, a longtime Darien resident and WWII veteran, passed peacefully on February 4, 2020 at the age of 94. Bob was born in Port Chester, NY on June 24, 1925, the son of Austin B. Martella and Florence Murray. His father was a Sergeant in the Marine Corps in WWI and, when his time came, Bob was proud to follow in his dad’s footsteps. Bob’s mom was also a huge influence, instilling in him the importance of family that he would carry and celebrate for the rest of his life.

 

Bob graduated from Port Chester High School in Port Chester, NY. After high school, eager to join the war effort like so many of his older friends and classmates, he convinced his dad to write a letter to the local recruiting office giving permission for Bob to enlist, which was needed because he was only 17 years old! During WWII he spent three years with the 5th Air Forces, Signal Corps Division, and was awarded three Bronze Service Stars for his campaigns in New Guinea and the Philippines. After returning from the Pacific Bob married Janet L. Werring on August 27, 1949 and they spent their first year living together at Tusculum College in Tennessee.

After living in Rye and Yorktown Heights they settled in Darien in 1972 where they stayed for the remainder of their lives. This time together saw them easily eclipse the Golden Anniversary mark as in the end they were married for 69 years.

Bob worked for Liberty Mutual Insurance in New York City for over 36 years. He was very active as a troop leader in the Boy Scouts and, along with his wife Janet, a volunteer with Pegasus Therapeutic Riding program. He loved gardening and tinkering around the house, but his favorite hobby by far was boating. In addition to indulging this passion he also donated countless hours helping out (and hanging out) at The Darien Boat Club.

We will miss Bob’s avid storytelling and his enthusiasm for life’s little moments, from sharing cocktails on the deck with his beloved wife to presiding over family barbecues to celebrating every conceivable holiday on the calendar.

Bob is survived by his children Robert (Linda), Suzanne, Barbara Morehouse (Hank), Karen and Charles (Ariadna). He was a proud grandfather of Lauren, Evan, Leal, Diego and Sofia. His sister Pam Flanagan resides in Greenwich, CT.

The family would like to thank Darien EMS Post 53, the nurses of Waveny Home Health Care and Visiting Angels of Stamford.

A Mass of Christian Burial was held at St. Thomas Moore Church in Darien on Monday, February 10th.

In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to Pegasus Therapeutic Riding, c/o Candice
Sciarrillo, 310 Peach Lake Road, Brewster, NY 10509-1715 (www.pegasustr.org/donate/)
or Darien EMS Post 53, P.O. Box 2066, Darien, CT 06820 (www.post53.info)

 

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